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A few years ago, on a hot summer morning, I found myself scrolling through TikTok when I was *supposed* to be doing devotion. 

For some backstory, I had been struggling with a few things, one of which was marriage. Earlier that week, I asked myself, “Would I ever find a partner?”

However, on this particular day, while scrolling through TikTok, I came across many young women talking about dating and asking for a spouse. I figured TikTok had overheard my private conversations with God (even though they were all in my mind).

Anyway, while scrolling through TikTok, one video stood out to me. The TikToker said that maybe the reason so many women were ‘thirsty’ was that they weren’t drinking from the well. 

The Break Down

God taught me many things about marriage, even if some of those things are still hard to digest. One thing He clearly taught me was not to ask Him for a spouse, especially as a single woman. This lesson was summed up in this single promise.

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
is God in His holy dwelling.

Psalms 68:5

This is a nail-biting truth that had me wondering: “If I’m not supposed to ask for a spouse, what *exactly* am I to ask for?”

As a young woman who lost my father a few years prior to this revelation, God taught me that marriage had one specific goal in mind. Marriage was supposed to be the ultimate representation of Him and His direct covering over His people. To hold the position of husband, that someone must be appointed by God. 

The person with this title would be my direct covering, and my submission to him would reflect my submission to Christ. 

But that didn’t address the fact that I (and many others) struggle to accept this.

What Are We Thirsty For?

Let’s be honest for a second. In modern colloquial English, we have a *definition* for the word thirsty. Who’s a thirsty woman?

If you ask anyone at a high school level, they’ll definitely have something to tell you (after they laugh at you, of course). But … they’d be right. Anyone who longs for a sensuous relationship fits the category of ‘thirsty’. 

When the TikToker showed up on my ‘For You’ page, this was exactly what she was talking about. 

We all know the story of that Samaritan woman. Yes, that woman who Jesus said had *five* husbands. 

There are some things I think we should keep in mind when we read about Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman. Culturally, it’s important. 

1. Men and women were never seen in the same spaces together unless they were married or related.
2. Samaritans and Jews certainly didn’t mix or mingle.
3. No one fetches water in the middle of the day. Women did this chore in the early morning, when it was cooler.

Jesus met the Samaritan woman in a town called Sychar (also known as Shechem), where Jacob’s well was. The irony is not lost that this is where Jacob met and fell in love with Laban’s daughter, Rachel. It was at this very well (outlined in Genesis 29) that Jacob’s encounter with both Leah and Rachel took place. 

The Story of the Samaritan Woman

John is the only Gospel writer to describe Jesus’ encounter with a Samaritan woman. In his account, he describes a conversation between the Messiah and this woman. 

Jesus identified himself as the Messiah to this woman. She was the first to learn who Jesus truly was.

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Bring Your Husband

I often wondered why Jesus asked the Samaritan woman to bring her husband. Did He want to intentionally reveal her past, or did this question serve another purpose?

During the conversation, the Samaritan woman may have believed Jesus was offering her literal water, yet when she realized Jesus might be a prophet, she shifted the conversation to theology, not realizing Jesus had been giving her a theological lesson all along. 

Sometimes, at a surface level, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment—not recognizing a deeper truth to a message being relayed to us. It certainly was the case for me. When the Samaritan woman asked to receive this ‘living water’, and Jesus asked to meet her husband, her response was a bit … strange.

Yet, Jesus highlighted an issue that many women face today. Returning to the town of Sychar, where Jacob’s well was and where he met Rachel, an entire narrative unfolds before our very eyes. 

Rachel and Leah competed for Jacob’s affection through any means necessary, almost to the point of degradation, when they began to drag their maidservants into their messy competition of who could bear Jacob the most children.

At one point, Leah and Rachel’s tension as sisters rose so high that they began to sell themselves for mandrakes. 

If you don’t know what mandrakes are, they were herbal plants used in ancient cultures as a popular stimulant—like an aphrodisiac—and many women thought they helped with fertility. When Leah’s son brought home mandrakes, Rachel desperately wanted them.

Leah used the mandrakes to get her one night with Jacob (apparently, it was Rachel’s night). In fact, she said to Jacob herself that ‘she hired Jacob with mandrakes.

In the days of wheat harvest, Reuben went and found mandrakes in the field and brought them to his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, “Please give me some of your son’s mandrakes.” But she said to her, “Is it a small matter that you have taken away my husband? Would you take away my son’s mandrakes also?” Rachel said, “Then he may lie with you tonight in exchange for your son’s mandrakes.” When Jacob came from the field in the evening, Leah went out to meet him and said, “You must come into me, for I have hired you with my son’s mandrakes.” So he lay with her that night.

Genesis 30:14-16

If you’re thinking ‘desperate’, then you’re also thinking ‘these women were thirsty’.

It is no coincidence that Jesus met the Samaritan woman at this particular well. This passage highlights an issue many women face today: our struggles to understand that God is our sole source of intimacy. In fact, Jesus’ explanation of worship with the Father is intimate. 

At the time, Samaritans and Jews disagreed about how worship should be carried out, but Jesus explained that worship is intimate—something that can be done only in spirit and truth. 

Should we desire Him and Him alone, we would never ‘thirst’ again. 

And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.

Isaiah 58:11

God’s love fills us and satisfies us like a well that can never run dry—a spring that doesn’t fail. In the Old Testament, He used Israel to illustrate marriage, the true form of devotion and intimacy between a husband and his bride. 

The word of the Lord came to me, saying, “Go and proclaim in the hearing of Jerusalem”, Thus says the Lord,

“‘I remember the devotion of your youth, how as a bride you loved me and followed me through the wilderness, through a land not sown. Israel was holy to the Lord, the first fruits of his harvest; all who devoured her were held guilty, and disaster overtook them,’” declares the Lord.

Jeremiah 2:1-3 NIV

Yet, just like Israel, even today, we desire other things over God. Israel committed the heinous act of worshiping false idols, neglecting to honor their covenant with the True and Living God. In this, they committed two sins:

1. They neglected the Spring of Living Water
2. They dug their own broken cisterns that couldn’t hold anything

Has a nation ever changed its gods? (Yet they are not gods at all.) But my people have exchanged their glorious God for worthless idols. Be appalled at this, you heavens, and shudder with great horror,” declares the Lord. “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.

Jeremiah 2:11-13 NIV

Continuously thirsty, we chase after things that are not of God’s own heart and pray for husbands because we believe that God cannot holistically satisfy us. 

Sexual sin will always be prevalent because of this broken unity from the beginning. But God is able to restore that by providing for us the Holy Spirit—a new covenant we can become one with—a covenant that will never leave us dissatisfied.

Perhaps this Samaritan woman was struggling with this very thing—Jesus illustrated her lifestyle and showed her that something was lacking in her life. 

Christ is the Living Water, the spring that never runs dry.  

Dirty Vessels Deserve Dirty Truths

Are you a dirty vessel?

I sure am. We all are. And for that, we deserve dirty truths. 

Sometimes we let our past (and present) define us. Maybe we struggled with this ‘thirsty’ thing all our lives, or perhaps this has become a recent struggle and a hurdle we have no idea how to get over. 

Then, my friend, you have become a dirty vessel. But you deserve to know the truth. 

Thus says the Lord God to Jerusalem: 

“Your origin and your birth are of the land of the Canaanites; your father was an Amorite and your mother a Hittite. And as for your birth, on the day you were born, your cord was not cut, nor were you washed with water to cleanse you, nor rubbed with salt, nor wrapped in swaddling cloths. No eye pitied you, to do any of these things to you out of compassion for you, but you were cast out on the open field, for you were abhorred, on the day that you were born.

“And when I passed by you and saw you wallowing in your blood, I said to you in your blood, ‘Live!’ I said to you in your blood, ‘Live!’ I made you flourish like a plant of the field. And you grew up and became tall and arrived at full adornment. Your breasts were formed, and your hair had grown, yet you were naked and bare.

“When I passed by you again and saw you behold, you were at the age for love, and I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your nakedness; I made my vow to you and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Lord God, and you became mine. Then I bathed you with water and washed off your blood from you and anointed you with oil. I clothed you also with embroidered cloth and shod you with fine leather. I wrapped you in fine linen and covered you with silk. And I adorned you with ornaments and put bracelets on your wrists and a chain on your neck. And I put a ring on your nose and earrings in your ears and a beautiful crown on your head. Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty. And your renown went forth among the nations because of your beauty, for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you”, declares the Lord God.

Ezekiel 16:3-14

Even though God took Israel, cleaned her up, and made her His, Israel made the mistake of chasing after other gods, trusting her own beauty and splendor rather than the grace God had given her. 

But the truth is…

We don’t have to become like Israel. God sent His Son to redeem us back to Himself. 

In ancient Hebrew culture, the redeemer (goel) was the person (usually a relative) sent to restore a person’s rights if they were wronged. The redeemer operated in four primary functions:

• To redeem an Israelite who had become a slave
• To repurchase property that was sold because of poverty
• To avenge the murder of a close relative
• To restore a widow’s rights if her former husband died without leaving an heir

For your Maker is your husband—
the Lord Almighty is His name—
the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;
He is called the God of all the earth.

Isaiah 54:5 ESV

God becomes our ultimate redemption, sending His Son to perform the task of the Redeemer. 

The Year of the Lord’s Favor

Christ was favored to become the liberator of those in captivity and the redeemer of those who were sold into slavery, left without an inheritance, and wrought with shame. 

The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me because the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor;
he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God;
to comfort all who mourn; to grant to those who mourn in Zion—to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit;
that they may be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he may be glorified.

Isaiah 61:1-2 ESV

He came to bring the Good News to those who feel like a dirty vessel, cast aside by their family and community—those like the Samaritan woman who had to fetch her water at noon. 

To her, Christ was the Good News. He was the Messiah she had waited for, and she was the first to proclaim the Gospel to her hometown. Because of this, many believed in Christ, saying that He was the Savior of the world. 

Through this, we receive God’s unmerited love and favor.

For His anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.

Psalms 30:5 NIV

A Husband Like Christ

To the woman who prays for a husband, pray instead for God’s Living Water. 

We should have no other want or desire but God. When our hearts are fully in God, if it is in His will, He will lead us to the person He knows is the perfect ambassador of the covenant He made with us.

For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor. No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.

Psalms 84:11 ESV

God can cover us and give us a heart that thirsts for Him alone. 

As the deer pants for streams of water,
so my soul pants for you, my God.
My soul thirsts for God, for the living God.
When can I go and meet with God?

Psalms 42:1-2 NIV

Whether we are single or not, God is our ultimate defender. A father to the fatherless and a defender of widows is God in His holy habitation. 

For your Maker is your husband—
the Lord Almighty is His name—
the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;
He is called the God of all the earth.

Isaiah 54:5 ESV

God’s Word to You

This was previously posted on Becoming the Oil and Wine. Read the original here.

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